{"id":7590,"date":"2023-10-21T06:41:19","date_gmt":"2023-10-21T06:41:19","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.exlibrismeis.com\/?p=7590\/"},"modified":"2024-07-04T10:36:41","modified_gmt":"2024-07-04T10:36:41","slug":"modern-love-kerry-egan","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.exlibrismeis.com\/en\/2023\/10\/21\/modern-love-kerry-egan\/","title":{"rendered":"&#8220;MODERN LOVE&#8221; by Kerry Egan"},"content":{"rendered":"<div>\u00a0<\/div>\n<section class=\"meteredContent css-1r7ky0e\">\n<div class=\"css-1fanzo5 StoryBodyCompanionColumn\"><a href=\"https:\/\/www.exlibrismeis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/10\/Kerry-Egan.webp\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignleft size-medium wp-image-7586\" src=\"https:\/\/www.exlibrismeis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/10\/Kerry-Egan-300x168.webp\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"168\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.exlibrismeis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/10\/Kerry-Egan-300x168.webp 300w, https:\/\/www.exlibrismeis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/10\/Kerry-Egan.webp 750w, https:\/\/www.exlibrismeis.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/10\/Kerry-Egan-300x168@2x.webp 600w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/><\/a><em style=\"color: #008000; font-size: 18px;\"><strong>&#8220;The Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung argued that when we fall in love with someone, what we really fall in love with are the characteristics that are in us, but that, for whatever reason, we cannot access.<\/strong><\/em><\/div>\n<div>\u00a0<\/div>\n<div class=\"css-1fanzo5 StoryBodyCompanionColumn\"><em style=\"color: #008000; font-size: 18px;\"><strong>This is what marriage does better than anything else.\u00a0<\/strong><\/em><\/div>\n<div class=\"css-1fanzo5 StoryBodyCompanionColumn\">\u00a0<\/div>\n<div class=\"css-1fanzo5 StoryBodyCompanionColumn\">\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<p class=\"css-158dogj evys1bk0\"><span style=\"color: #008000;\"><em><strong>It forces you to look hard at what you want to be and acknowledge that someone else, someone you love, cannot give it to you. <\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"css-158dogj evys1bk0\"><span style=\"color: #008000;\"><em><strong>Even after spending 25 years with that person, the only way to get there is to change yourself.\u00a0<\/strong><\/em><\/span><span style=\"color: #008000;\"><em><strong>Sometimes this change feels so impossible that instead of admiring the traits you want, you come to resent them. <\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<p class=\"css-158dogj evys1bk0\"><span style=\"color: #008000;\"><em><strong>Falling in love shows you who you could be, but marriage shows you who you still are.&#8221;<\/strong><\/em><\/span><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n<div class=\"css-1fanzo5 StoryBodyCompanionColumn\">\n<div class=\"css-53u6y8\">\n<hr class=\"css-7daw59 e1mu4ftr0\" \/>\n<p class=\"css-pncxxs etfikam0\"><span style=\"color: #000000;\"><a class=\"css-1g7m0tk\" style=\"color: #000000;\" title=\"\" href=\"https:\/\/kerryegan.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\">Kerry Egan<\/a><a class=\"css-1g7m0tk\" style=\"color: #000000;\" title=\"\" href=\"https:\/\/kerryegan.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener noreferrer\"> is the writer of &#8220;On living.&#8221;<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"color: #000000; 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